Kissing 101 #NationalKissingDay
A survey taken by the Smithsonian found that more than half the participants ended a relationship because of a bad kiss. I’m over here trying to remember if any of my ex’s participated in a Smithsonian survey <Purses lips while pulling archives> …nah.
What I am curious to know from philematologists (literally, kissing scientists) are the components of a truly cosmic kiss.
In honor of National Kissing Day we’ve collected all the data and compiled the best practices for making out. If you’d like to take your swipe right next level, brush up on the below.
Speaking of brushing up, good oral hygiene is fundamental to lip locking. Brush, floss, gargle—make sure you’re cool with having your own tongue in that mouth before you think about sticking it in someone else’s.
Your chemical romance.
The truth is as much as you might like someone, you can’t invent or will chemistry. It exists or it doesn’t. Intimacy is difficult but you must allow time to actually feel what’s happening in your body (not just your mouth) to find out whether or not your pheromones are compatible. This is what philematologists call the “taste test.”
Desire not desperado.
The biggest bad-kiss-culprit is desperation. I know it can feel like (especially for the first kiss) “getting it over with” is easiest, but think about that logic. If this is something you truly want to be doing, try to relax. There are no magic tricks you never learned. You’re ok. No one is going to bite you, unless you want them too 😉
Go despacito aka slow your roll.
Not only do you want to be sure to get consent, you also want to avoid bumping heads awkwardly. If you’ve reached a moment of intimacy, where you can feel the chemistry of desire between you two, it’s already happening. Slowly move your head towards the other person and take a pause. What does that moment feel like?
In this closeness, smile, talk, make eye contact—there are no rules and no rush. Often it’s the sensation right before lips meet, that’s actually the most pleasurable.
Have fun with kissing and be glad your first ever is behind you. Unlike these courageous teens who were brave enough to put it on camera for Seventeen!